How to Take Control of Your Life in 7 Steps

If you were to look at your life from someone else’s perspective, who would you say is in control? Life is not supposed to be 50+ years of dread, stress, and sacrifice in order to hopefully achieve some sort of purposeful existence. For the majority however, this is truth.

“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect” – Mark Twain.

If the dream you have for your life is not reality, you fall into the majority, and it’s now time for some reflection. It is clear that change is necessary if you are not in control of your life, and that is what we will do. Easier said than done right? Keep reading…

More than likely you have bought into notion that you must continue your current life path so you may enjoy it later. It does not make any sense to spend the prime portion of your life doing anything but enjoying it! Below are 7 steps that anyone can do to take control of your life and really grasp the reality that you can have anything you want for yourself. Take some time to reflect on yourself and write down the answers to the following questions.

1. What is/are your dream(s)?
  • Let’s pretend that your current life has no bounds or limitations and you could do anything you want to whenever you want, what would it be? Where would you go? What would you do? Who would you do it with? What other experiences do wish to have?
2. What is/are your nightmare(s)?
  • Reapply the boundaries and limitations that exist in your life. If you chase your dreams what must you change? Play out the worst case scenario if you woke up tomorrow and chased your dreams. Would your life be over? Are the effects of this change permanent? What are the chances that this scenario will happen?
3. How could you get back to today?
  • What steps would you need to take in order to get to where you are at right now? How difficult is it to undo the changes you made to get you back to where you are today?
4. What is likely to happen?
  • What is the most probable scenario to making life changes? What are the benefits of this in the long term and the short term? Has anyone else done this before? How did it work for out for them?
5. What are you afraid of?
  • What scares you the most about taking control? What are you afraid of losing? What are you afraid of doing? What we fear doing most is what we most need to do. That, which you are afraid of doing, is what you need to do.
6. What would this cost you to wait?
  • What are the financial, emotional, career, physical, and family costs of not acting? If you don’t pursue your dream, where will you be tomorrow, in a year, ten years, and twenty years? Will you experience regret, disappointment, or emptiness?
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.” – Theodore Roosevelt
7. What are you waiting for!?
  • Well? If the answer is “the right time” then you are afraid. If you are waiting for the time to be right, it never will be. Take a look at how unlikely the worst case scenario is, the cost of fear, and the benefits of action!
You now have a tool to break down and rebuild the perception that you have to live your life a specific way. Would you rather look back and wonder where your life went or tell stories of fulfillment and excitement? You dream, you decide, you act.

Chris Ankele About Chris Ankele
Chris is a college student, entrepreneur, consultant, investor, an empowerment to young adults and most of all, a dreamer. His passion is to influence the way his generation seeks success. With a seemingly overwhelming amount of ideas in his head, he has become committed to changing the way the world works for the benefit of humanity.